the good, the bad and the choice

[ginnyvos]

I have... Not had the easiest life one might have. I've been through a lot of things and if you make a pro's and cons list I'm pretty sure it'd end in the negative... And yet...

And yet when I look back, I feel I've had a happy childhood.

Because, and really, these are words I've lived by since I was too young to understand that I was; life is what you make it.

Being happy, having a happy life, isn't about good or bad things happening. It's about what you do to deal with them. It's about choosing to have a glass half-full rather than half-empty. And yes, I say choosing. Because this is a choice. It's a choice I make each and every time something sucky happens. Feel crappy, get a hug, reletivate, find the humour, laugh about it and move on. Cherish the good and not the bad.

It's a lesson some people in my life right now might do well learning. It's frustrating to see them focussing on the bad and let all the good just slip away. It's even more frustrating that they won't or can't let me help them see it. They'll get through it though :)

Comments

[oracle-dreams.livejournal.com]

absolutely... every single word!

[i-am-zan.livejournal.com]

Totally absolutely right on girl. *HUGS* ^__^

[amelia-seyroon.livejournal.com]

Now if only more people would do the same thing!

[stargate27.livejournal.com]

THis is easier said than done. It ain't always easy to see the glass half full instead of half empty. It's good for you that you can do it, but I fear we're not all like that and in a way I also don't feel liek we all have to be happy and optimistic. At times it can be great to just be a pessimist and see the dark clouds instead of always looking for teh rays of sunlight.

[ginnyvos.livejournal.com]

it's really a choice. And I'm not saying it's an easy choice, but it IS a choice that gets easier each time. As for making the choice the other way (glass half empty), if that's what you need, than fine. But after a while (and with a while I mean weeks, more than a month now), it's time to stop wallowing in the missery and at least try to get back to your feet.

It's incredibly tiring to have someone ask you to help them when they're down and then have them working against you every step of the way because they really don't *want* to be helped back up.

[stargate27.livejournal.com]

You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink. People will get there when they are ready for it. Asking for help can be a first step already, but that doesn't mean they are already ready at that moment to also take that second step. You need to have patience.

Huggles
Gillie

[ginnyvos.livejournal.com]

I know, I know... It's just... I'm so, so tired of my own crab (thesis that keeps going and going and going) and have two people leaning primarily on me right now that are both down because of the other and their disfunctional relationship. Sometimes I really just want to scream at them to get their shit together and get their heads out of the sand, get over themselves and either break up or make up.

It gets... Very tiring after a month of the same.

[stargate27.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I really just want to scream at them to get their shit together and get their heads out of the sand, get over themselves and either break up or make up.
Maybe not such a bad idea. Just don't scream it but tell them this calmly. Maybe then they'll come to realize how idiotic they are being.
In any case, don't let them wear you out. Enough is enough and you need to be allowed to tell them this.
Good luck with it!

Huggles
Gillie